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Iranian Singer Sentenced to 74 Lashes


Parastoo Ahmadi (Left) and Googoosh (Right)

Iranian singer Parastoo Ahmadi was sentenced to 74 lashes for livestreaming an online concert without wearing a hijab. The severe ruling underscores ongoing restrictions on artistic expression and women’s rights in Iran.

The date of Ahmadi’s lashing, mandated by the Morality Police, has not been officially announced because her sentence is under appeal, though it is unlikely to be reversed.

The sentence, handed down on June 18, 2026, stems from a December 2024 livestream concert on Ahmadi’s YouTube channel. The 29-year-old Ahmadi sang a patriotic anthem without wearing a hijab, a practice banned under Iran’s strict laws.

In addition to the flogging, Ahmadi faces a two-year ban on leaving the country and a two-year ban on engaging in any artistic activities.

Fatemeh Shams, a professor of Persian Literature at the University of Pennsylvania, wrote on X: “Peace is not merely the silencing of missile sounds or the subsiding of bombardment flames. Peace finds meaning only when the bodies of women and innocent protesters are no longer fields for unrestrained violence; when whips, torture, and nooses are no longer tools of governance. True and lasting peace becomes possible only when no woman is branded a criminal for working, studying, singing, or choosing her own lifestyle; and when no innocent human is consigned to dark prison cells and gallows for the crime of protesting, demanding justice, or expressing an opinion.”

The Iranian-British actor Nazanin Boniadi said: “The sentencing of singer Parastoo Ahmadi to flogging for the simple act of singing publicly without a hijab is a stark reminder that, despite talk in Washington of a ‘new regime’ in Iran, the Islamic Republic’s machinery of repression remains unchanged.”

The Iranian actor Setareh Maleki, who was forced into exile after starring in Mohammad Rasoulof’s Oscar-nominated film The Seed of the Sacred Fig, said: “When I watched the video of Parastoo Ahmadi’s concert, it reignited the spirit of resistance in me. For days, I kept watching the videos over and over again, and I felt immensely proud of Parastoo.”

Since the 1979 Islamic Revolution, male singers face heavy censorship and must obtain official permits for public performances, while women have been prohibited from singing solo for mixed-gender audiences in public. Women are permitted to sing only in groups or choirs, or for female-only audiences. Singers must have their lyrics and music approved by the Ministry of Culture and Islamic Guidance, and the censorship and licensing process in Iran is highly stringent.

The sentencing of Ahmadi brought back memories of Googoosh, an Iranian Azerbaijani singer and actress who was wildly popular in the 1960s and 1970s.

Googoosh, a Turkish name meaning “Swan Bird,” was as famous in Iran as Elvis was in the United States.

Her music ranged from upbeat pop to emotional ballads, and she was often compared to Édith Piaf. Googoosh also starred in more than 25 movies, including the most commercially successful Iranian film of all time.

Then came the Iranian Revolution in 1979, which forever changed her life. During that time, 29-year-old Googoosh fled Iran and settled in Los Angeles.

For personal reasons, a few months later she returned to Tehran despite warnings that the incoming extremist regime would likely imprison or execute her. Upon her return, the new theocratic government arrested her, barred her from singing or performing, banned her music and movies, stripped her of her passport, and imposed a 21-year state-enforced silence on her.

During Mohammad Khatami’s presidency, after her 21-year sentence, she was somehow allowed to tour outside Iran. The Googoosh Comeback Tour was a series of concerts that began in July 2000, when she was 50 years old.

When I was the Publisher of World Press Review Magazine, I was offered press tickets to her historic sold-out New York concert at Madison Square Garden on August 26, 2000.

The concert scene was surreal as Googoosh was greeted by more than ten thousand cheering fans, many of them Iranian refugees who had last heard her sing in pre-revolutionary Iran and were openly weeping.

Googoosh has lived in exile and toured ever since, dedicating her life to keeping Iranian culture and music alive for audiences worldwide.

Oh, if only this was an option for Parastoo Ahmadi.

The Seven Minute Theory


Yesterday, I came across the meme above, which suggests that the human brain remains active for about seven minutes after death, replaying its most cherished memories.

The meme tugged at me in a way I hadn’t anticipated.

Seven minutes.

What if my most treasured memories, people, or events could replay in my mind as I left this glorious earth behind?

An instant replay at death.

I found the concept cathartically soothing and deeply reflective.

Unable to get the meme out of my head, I went on my usual Google search-rampage for more information.

According to my research, the “seven minutes” phenomenon stems from observations of the dying process during near-death experiences. When the heart stops, blood and oxygen stop flowing to the brain, but neurons don’t die immediately.

Studies on animals and recordings from the brains of dying humans have shown brief, intense bursts of electrical activity, known as gamma waves, during the brain’s shutdown phase.

Some scientists have observed brief bursts of brain activity just moments after death, resembling patterns associated with memory or dreaming.

The “seven minutes” concept holds that this final surge of neural activity—caused by oxygen deprivation and a flood of neurotransmitters—can trigger a dreamlike state or sudden, vivid, and fragmented recall of memories.

Other scientists are adamant that a seven-minute duration is questionable, arguing that the brain retains residual electrical energy for less than seven minutes before irreversible damage occurs. Yet they also acknowledge that the duration can vary depending on the circumstances.

The bottom line? No one really knows.

Neural activity after death is an unfounded mystery, and there is no way to know whether the seven-minute instant replay claim is true.

I know nothing about the validity of consciousness during the dying process, but I was intrigued by the possibility.

There is no conclusive, hard scientific evidence that the brain remains alive for seven minutes or for any length of time after death.

Yet I couldn’t stop fantasizing about it.

And hoping for it.

For my purposes, and at my age, the mere thought that at death, instead of being terrified right before dying, there is a possible miraculous opportunity to experience pure joy for seven long minutes stuck with me as I tried to sleep last night.

In my final moments, I would love an instant replay of the people and the memories I cherish most.

Who wouldn’t?

Which then prompted me to ask:

If I had only seven minutes to relive the best moments of my life, which memories would I choose?

Whom or what would I see?

Whose laughter would I hear?

Who would be holding me close?

What memory would flash before my eyes in the fleeting minutes before I faded into the unknown?

I was sleepless in New York, so I had countless hours to replay countless moments with countless precious somebodies in my head.

The idea of my brain replaying my best memories in those final moments before my death was as eerie as it was comforting.

I began instant-replaying some of my most glorious memories.

That night, we ran through the dark in R.I., then rolled around together in fits of laughter.

The one who loved snails and the one who preferred trucks and GI Joes.

The adoration in his eyes as we held hands and climbed the snowy hill to sled all the way down.

The way he pressed his beaming face against the boards of the ice rink when he saw me.

Her excitement as she told me that one of those adorable puppies was mine.

She preferred “DIAPES!”

Making roses together from tissues and a bobby pin.

Regrets, he had a few.

The goose poop was “everyway!”

The way she called out, “Teh? Teh?”

He was only one when he looked up at me as if no one else were in the room.

The saga of Pee Pants.

The big love I felt when he jumped into that puddle, which covered him in mud, and then he wrapped his arms around me ever so tightly.

Once upon a time, there was AAA.

I winced, but lovingly, as she hurdled over the pews at the prayer service, exposing her diaper-wadded tights.

How peacefully he slept in my arms for hours and hours.

The vow we made never to reveal what happened in the hotel room with all of us girls.

Our constant texting during Storm Sandy continued until both our phones died.

He was adamant about “Not even in a tunnel.”

Her French lilt as she lovingly called me “Mon petit chou.”

The laughter that poured out of the two of them as I raced them through the snow in the pitch-black night on that neon toboggan.

The way he comforted me when I was at my lowest point.

The dozen roses he bought me with all of his allowance money for Mother’s Day.

How she looked forward to my reading the newspaper to her every day after school.

That day, I washed my hair in the rain.

They were all part of my seven-minute moments, and I didn’t even have to die to recall any of them!

I thought about the treasured people who had passed through my life and the countless stupendously joyful memories, many of which I had long since forgotten.

And honestly, the memories were so vivid, and I felt so present. And, surprisingly, they didn’t make me sad. They made me ecstatically happy.

There were so many people I hadn’t thought of in years. Displaced moments, scattered memories—some so sweet that I was shocked I had forgotten them.

I relived times in my life that never made it into my highlight reel, even though many of those moments defined my entire persona.

A random meme about seven minutes of replay at death was the reason I spent all night reliving many of my favorite memories of so many people I loved and still love.

Then I started wondering…

I wondered whether so many of those I thought about last night will ever know how deeply I care about them.

And I vowed to tell as many as I could.

I wondered whether those who now exist only in a paradise I hope to one day join know that I think about them all the time and that they will always hold a special place in my heart.

I wondered about those who are still here but not with me—whether they know how much I love them and, if they do, whether they care.

I wondered whether I would someday be part of someone’s seven minutes.

If only.

Bullies and Intimidators = Haters

When asked to describe myself, my go-to response is:

You may not like what I have to say, but you’ll always know where I stand.

Which can often be a relationship-changer, and not always in a good way.

Expressing myself through words—written and spoken—has required immense resolve, and courage. As a result, I have my fair share of haters, mostly because they tried (and failed) to bully or intimidate me.

I’m not sure whether my haters actually hate me, secretly respect me, or are merely afraid that I will expose them and the truth.

Or maybe all of the above.

I have no choice but to push back against haters, mainly because I promised myself that my days of being bullied and intimidated were over a long time ago.

Now I have no choice but to stand up for what’s right—LOUD and proud, so that bullying or intimidating me will backfire on anyone who dares to try.

It doesn’t take a mathematician to figure out that bullies and intimidators = haters. And haters = chronic fault-finders who bully and intimidate others because they are insecure, jealous, and feel “less than” in their own lives.

As a result, when the bullies and intimidators, i.e., haters, try to come for me, I deliberately deploy my words to level the playing field. My intention is not to wield power or hold it over anyone, but to protect myself from those who try to wield power over me.

At my age, my thinking is threefold:

  • The haters can bully and intimidate me only if I let them.
  • What do I have left to lose that I haven’t already lost?
  • I can out-roar and out-charge the best of them.

I learned the hard way that being vulnerable in my words and actions can only take me so far. And sometimes people mistake my willingness to be vulnerable for a weakness—at their peril.

My courage to share my vulnerable side does not equate to timidity.

Rather, it is the opposite.

Yes, my courage helps me open up, be vulnerable, and share my weaknesses, but it can also bring out the charging bear in me.

You come for me and mine, and I come for you 2.0.

Don’t poke the bear.

Protecting myself and my loved ones with my voice and words is my forever armor, so bullies, intimidators = haters, beware.

And let’s be honest, no matter what I say or don’t say, haters will always try to stir the pot. That’s what they do.

So let them take their best shot. Let’s see how it works out for them. And if they choose to roar, they should brace for a thunderous echo.

Because the cost of hiding behind a carefully managed self is no longer an option for me, and hasn’t been for quite some time.

And anyway, I want to be the kind of writer—and woman—who isn’t afraid to write—or speak—about who I am, how I feel, and what I will and won’t tolerate.

I want to be remembered not only as a woman who uses words to expose my fragility but also as a warrior who uses them to challenge the hierarchy.

The kind of Teri-truth-telling that risks being vilified for using my not-so-nice words to put people who are legends in their own minds in their place, both written and spoken.

Not because I think I’m masterful at it, but as a raw, visceral presence, like “Don’t F with me because you’re not as tough or important as you think you are, which is why you have no power over me.”

Proverbs 28:15 warns that a wicked ruler over a poor people is like a roaring lion and a charging bear.

My Stolen Diaries — Chapter 35: Ernie Barrett


[Ernie Barrett is a fictional character, but his persona is dedicated to Arn Berglund, a very special friend and my hero. May he rest in peace.]

CHAPTER 35

ERNIE BARRETT

July 6, 1967

Roberto, aka “Rob,” loves to brag all day and night about our house sitting on a full acre of land. Brook Glen is a lifetime away from our rundown slum tenement on White Street or our attached apartment in Success Park. But I would give anything—NO, I would give everything—to go back to either one.

Yesterday, I met Ernie, the boy next door and an Eagle Scout. Ernie seems like an okay kid, but he’s no Chris Santoro.

Today I went for a long walk through the Nature Center off Brook Glen and ran into Ernie, wearing an olive-green short-sleeved shirt and matching Bermuda shorts, with binoculars around his neck. I tried to pretend I didn’t see him, but he caught up to me.

As he focused on the trees, I focused on how to get rid of him. He was staring through his stupid binoculars, pointing out this bird and that bird, as if I cared.

I didn’t want to hurt Ernie’s feelings, but I had zero interest in being his friend, and anyway, it was obvious we had nothing in common.

Or maybe we did, because when we both heard a loud tapping high in the trees, Ernie pointed out an adorable black-and-white woodpecker.

He gave me a strange look when I told him it was my first-ever sighting, even though I’d seen Woody Woodpecker on television a thousand times.

His love of birds reminded me of the time when that poor bird family died on the back porch on White Street.

On my way home, he followed behind me and explained all his merit badges.

He was proudest of his First Aid, Life-saving, and Emergency Preparedness badges. He excitedly told me he had an Eagle Scout card signed by JFK and that he wanted to become a doctor when he grew up.

I told him about the one time I went to Girl Scout Camp for two horrific weeks on a scholarship, but I got kicked out for pooping behind our tent because I was afraid to use the disgusting outhouse. He looked at me, dumbfounded.

And that’s when I decided to tell him, “Until two days ago, my name was Tony Morgan, but now it’s Tonya Russo because my mom married a jerk who decided I should have new first and last names.

And also, the jerk’s name is Roberto, but he goes by Rob now because, in addition to being a jerk, he’s a liar and a fake.”

For whatever reason, I told Ernie everything about me, including growing up in the slums, having a grandmother who raised me and my teenage mom, the rats and cockroaches, and a father I never knew because he gave me up.

I was on a roll, so then I said in a loudish voice, “I was baptized Catholic when I was eight, so I could go to a new school to get away from Tit, who was beating me up every day, and speaking of birds, I used to have a nest of birds that I loved, but they ate the rat poison on our back porch on White Street and croaked.”

I could tell by the look on Ernie’s face that he had never met anyone like me before, and not in a good way.

I made him promise to keep his mouth shut about what I told him, and he said, “Scout’s honor.”

When we arrived at Ernie’s house, he stood frozen in place, suffering from severe shell shock. As I walked away from him, I looked back and shouted that if anyone deserved a merit badge and a card signed by JFK, it was me.

Maybe Ernie’s not so bad after all, but he’s still no Chris Santoro.

Stay tuned for Chapter 36: The Longshore Country Club Pool